Confidence in SECONDS! What? How?! Well this is how... :)

    Confidence! That amazing when you have it but horrible feeling when you don't tiny little green monster on your shoulder that rules the world! (Ok, maybe that was a little dramatic) But I think not! Lets be honest, confidence is huge, and in today's society it looked for in every individual. Whether its a job interview, a date, an important meeting, or simply confidence in yourself; its IMPORTANT. Unfortunately, for most, its something that we really have to work on. But in reality, it's hard to work on gaining confidence, and we all have our low days.

    When I was in high school, I had a big lack of confidence, and it really affected me. My grandma taught me this system and every time I walk into a room now, I rock it! People know who I am, know what I represent, and  see the confidence I carry. So here is my secret to gaining confidence in seconds, and rocking everyday!

     Here is how:
1. Close your eyes, take three deep breath. Calm your mind and your nerves.
2. Think of the things you want to achieve today, or what you want to feel. Example: " I am Confident, Beautiful, and Amazing at my job", or, "I am Confident, Smart, Beautiful and Lovable". It can be any combination of the things you want to be that day, and how you want to be seen by others.
3. Pretend you have a zipper from just bellow your belly button to the top of your head, and the zipper is undone. Were going to zip ourselves up!
4. Take the imaginary zipper and as your zipping up take a deep breath and say you combination of words. Do this three times, taking a deep breath between each zip.
5. When you get to your third zip, lock the zipper and throw away the key. 
(If you need to zip up more than three times, zip up till you feel that confidence)

    I do this every day before I leave the house, it makes a huge difference for me. Every time I go on a date, I zip up, and those three simple words I told myself I was, is how he saw me that night. Before a job interview I'm all shakes, but when I zip up, I walk into that room like I own it. If I'm intimated by someone, I sneak to the bathroom and zip up! I come out of the bathroom and all eyes are on me. I hope that you all try this and can gain that extra boost of confidence that we all need sometimes!

Don't let the little green monster get you down!!
Try it.... NOW!
Own your day, because its yours to own, and yours to enjoy!

Xo
Kenz

Dating: Its Time To Get Back Up!

Have you ever had that moment of realizing a big part of your life is gone, and you will never get it back? We all have a past, and in that past are moments we will never forget. As we grow up we find friends that stick with us for life. Activities that we will always enjoy. Dreams that were always reaching for, but what about love? Love... that moment when nothing else matters. Its only you and that person who makes you whole. When your not near them, it feels like there is a hole in your heart. When you fight, the anger built up isn't even close to the passion you have for one another. When your together, you cant hold in the enjoyment. The giggles, the cries, the laughs, the song you hear on the radio, and you say to yourself... "ours". 

So when love is gone, whats next? When you lose that person that meant the world to you, and all you can see is a black tunnel; where do you go from there? Is there chance that you can love again? And if so, will that love ever compare to that first "true love". I think we all want to know the answers to these questions. WHERE do we go from here? CAN we love again?

 Now lets define that love, because honestly.. I think few know what that word even means anymore. When you look up Love in the dictionary it says, " A profoundly tender, passionate affection for another person." What the dictionary doesn't mention is, a best friend, a companion, a person that drives every ambition, a person willing to help you, knows all of your faults, but is still proud to be called yours.

I think after all is said and done, Yes you can love again; but you have to be ready. Now where do we go from here? The only was is forward, one step at a time. Here is my promise to myself, and I hope you make this promise too. I promise that I will love myself, and see the amazing person that I am. I promise to let love into my heart, not scared of what could happen, because when its right, my heart will never be empty again. I promise to NEVER settle for less than I deserve. I promise to believe that I deserve the most amazing man out there, and that together, we can make each other complete. I promise to be a best friend, and if a best friend isn't received, then they aren't for me. I promise each and everyday to find out another amazing thing about myself.

After this blog I hope your heart is filled with hope! Hope that yes you can do this, because I know I'm not the only one having a hard time with this. Enjoy your life, make promises to have adventures, because you could find a love for that! Make promises to go each and everyday finding out another amazing thing about yourself! Make a promise to keep an open heart, because you never know who is waiting around the corner!

With open arms, and a loving heart, lets start a revolution of finding the meaning of true love...

Xo

  Kenz

Mission Statement

When I was in college, I had an instructor that told us our mission statement to ourselves was just as important as a mission statement in a brochure. She said that it let others see all the things we wanted to accomplish with the glitz and glam.We then got the assignment of making a mission statement to ourselves,   All I could think was, "You want me to spend my Friday night writing a brochure about myself?". Her answer was" Yes!" After stalling all night I figured I may as well try and accomplish this ridiculous task given to me. The assignment was ten things we wanted the world to know about us; what we wanted to accomplish, what our life goals were, what we wanted to leave the world with. I started thinking, what DO I want to leave this world with? When I woke up on that cold Saturday morning my mind was flooded with the things I not only wanted to accomplish, but what I wanted to leave this world with:
1. I want to be SUCCESSFUL!
2. I want to be in love!
3. I want to make other smile and see their true beauty.
4. I want to write a book.
5. I want to travel the world and fall in love with people that I meet.
6: I want people to see me and think, "She is a powerful, beautiful, kind woman.".
7. I want to be strong enough to speak for myself.
8. I don't want to CARE ABOUT WHAT OTHERS THINK!
9.I want my family to be proud of me.
10. I want to be proud of myself.

After thinking up these ten things that meant a  lot to me, I had a break down. I had spent 19 years letting others CONTROL me, be MEAN to me, tell me I WASN'T good enough, tell me how HARD life is, tell me I was TOO nice, tell me I CARED too much. Then it finally clicked, these were all EXCUSES from my peers. They had to bring me down because I was finding my way up, I was leaving them in the dark and I was finding the light. My mind was blown. All I could think was "To hell with you! How dare you try and keep me down, I will never EVER allow others to make me feel like I can't be these things again!!"

My mission statement changed... Before I kept saying the things I "wanted" to be. Wanting is like sitting on a fence. You either are or your not. In our life we can't want for things, we either have them or we don't. It's a choice that we make. Because we have the choice to be whatever we want to be! Here was my real mission statement:
1. I am SUCCESSFUL!
2. I am in LOVE!
3. I DO make others smile and see their true beauty!
4. I will write a book!
5. I will travel the world and love the people that I meet.
6. People DO think of me as a POWERFUL, BEAUTIFUL, KIND WOMAN!
7.I AM strong, and I DO speak for myself.
8. I DONT care what others think, I'm HAPPY with myself.
9. My family IS proud of me.
10. McKenzie, I'm SO proud of you, and I Love you!

My first mission statement was weak, I wasn't committed to it. My second mission statement was strong, and guess what I BELIEVED it! We all have a mission statement, and It can always change. But once you find it, you suddenly realize that all those things just come to you, and its easy to live your mission statement. Living is supposed to be easy. Having doubt, anger, and not believing in yourself is what makes life hard. Start now by making your life EASY! Write your mission statement, see the changes in yourself and your life that YOU CREATED. People will act differently around you, they will know who you are, because you have set the bar for who and what you are. They can NO LONGER tell you who you are. You have it in your mind and heart who you are, what you represent and how you want to be seen. Now go take your city and show them the amazing person you are. Write your mission statement, create the ultimate person you know you can be!

I would love for you to share your mission statement
Lots of Love,
Kenzie